Monday, December 3, 2012

AT Home HIV Testing



I decided to take an at home HIV test called Oraquick.  The result was negative meaning I do not have the virus with good certainty.  I read about it in the news.  It's a test you can take in the privacy of your own home.  Since it's been a while since I've had one, and many sexual indiscretions had amassed at the beginning of last year, fueled by a synthetic cannabinoid that had the effect of greatly increasing my sex drive and ability.  I do not of course recommend that anyone put themselves at such risk and it's something I don't do anymore.  But anyway, it's been over a year since I've indulged in sucha way so any infection would be apparent except HIV so I decided to get one of the home tests that just came out, a brand new product, the fate of which is uncertain due to it's controversial nature, but for now, it's out and available for $40.

Partake?

If you do, you need to follow the instructions closely.  I will not give them specifically here because I don't want you to follow my instructions, I want you to follow the instructions in the testing kit.  You basically have a vial with a liquid at the bottom, you open that, making sure you don't spill any of the fluid and set it in the testing kit space.  Then you open a package that has the testing stick and you take that making sure the pad doesn't touch anything and swab your upper gums once, and your lower gums once, it doesn't matter which side of the pad you use.  Then you put the stick into the testing tube/vial and wait 20 mins.  Results will be accurate up to 40 mins and it may take a little after 20 mins for the result to be very clear.  There is a C then a T space on the testing stick.  One line near the C is a negative result.  Two lines, one at the C and the other at the T is a positive result meaning you need to get further testing to get a more definitive result.  It's 99% accurate for people without HIV and about 91.7% accurate for people with HIV generally because they may not show up positive during the window period before antibodies are detectable.

Below is my result.  There is one line at the C which is a negative result meaning I do not have HIV with a very high degree of certainty given any window period has passed and the absence of any symptoms.  Congratulations to me.


Should you take a home HIV test?  Might high risk partners both take a test before becoming intimate?  There are many uses and possibilities for this test, some great and some not so great.  It can be a tool to greatly help stop the spread of HIV used wisely, or used unwisely, it can cause at risk persons to engage in high risk activities when the test accuracy has fallen for them due to a window period or other unknown factor or incorrect use of the test.  What do you think?  Is this test a good idea for society or a bad idea?  I think it's a positive direction.  It puts your medical information in your control and protects your privacy.  It also has a number to call 24 hrs a day if you need to talk to someone about your results.

Good night and be safe.

DF Seldon

Friday, November 23, 2012

Epistemological Psychotherapy, Desirable states




Desirable states
1.  Euphoria
2.  Flow
3.  Choiceless awareness


Choiceless Awareness is the most basic positive state.  It comes about when you can take in life without judgment, without self-centered thinking, including ambition and greed.  It is brought about by the act of seeing and feeling ‘what is’ and understanding it without also the desire to change it.  It is not a difficult state to discover, but as drives and desires and greed set in, it may be difficult to maintain.  It is important when such focus is lost, to simply see how it was lost and in that process regain it.  There is nothing mysterious about it.  It simply means, empty your feeling consciousness of self-centeredness, greed, ambition, the past, and the future and focusing on the moment without judgment.  From this state it is possible to use past knowledge and planning to accomplish something that needs to be done, but it is poisoned when you become attached to the things that need to be done with  your self-centered feeling and thinking.  Choiceless awareness is for now, not the future.  So observe with all of your intensity, what is happening now, with no desire or attempt to escape it.

“Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. Proposed by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, the positive psychology concept has been widely referenced across a variety of fields.”[1]  (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flow_(psychology) )  Flow is hypothesized to occur during a particular set of circumstances which can be explored at the preceding link.  In the current conceptual framework, it fits in as a state containing but slightly above choiceless awareness as it adds the value of engaging in meaningful activity and a sense of euphoria.

Euphoria is a transcendent experience of happiness and positive affect.  It is sometimes but rarely experienced during routine life.  It can be a side effect of certain drugs or even diseases.  In our conceptual framework, it is not a goal, especially considering the ill effects of some euphoric drugs or euphoric states like mania, it is simply a positive state that may come and go as a result of our activities and can be seen as the height of affective experiences.  It is also possible for euphoric states to be engineered to weed out harmful effects and improve positive effects and this is a worthy goal.




The Negative Thinking Process
Undesirable states
1.  Conflict
2.  Will
3.  Fragmentation


In the negative thought-process, there is a cycle of conflict, will to change, and disassociation and fragmentation, within the same individual or among an interacting group of individuals.  The content of the conflict is often in the past or an imagined future.  For example, one feels overweight and this leads to a conflict with the self that has split, fragmented from the reality of one’s weight such that one’s weight becomes something external, then will comes in and promises change but in effect just produces a lot of negative emotion.  While losing weight might be a worthy goal, the cycle of conflict, will, and fragmentation not only causes one to feel awful, but decreases the chances of a successful and safe weight loss.

Life, i. e. living, is to be totally observant in the moment such that there is not room for the self to fragment from consciousness and dream up phantom fears for us.  In the state of choiceless awareness we are able to be aware of and take on what is happening now in reality and respond appropriately rather than being caught up in intricate plots of doom and gloom we have dreamt up for ourselves.

Thanks for reading,
DF Seldon

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Epistemological Psychotherapy, narrow minded vs. open minded


There is a continuum on which people define the self narrowly, versus expansively.







Self

Immeasureable/ ß----------------------------------------------------------à  Narrow, Limited
Unknown
Undefined ß-------------------------------------------------------------------à Strictly defined
Open to experience ß----------------------------------------------------à  Closed-minded


Negative

A non-conformist may lose the benefits of belonging to a religious or political group.




Understanding of the world as it is with wars, poverty, and starvation not easily under our control may cause pessimism and negative feelings if not understood fully.

Being too open one may fail to avoid danger.
Positive

Ability to see clearly what is happening due to not being clouded with ideologies.




 Being open-minded allows one to observe reality clearly and gain insight and understanding.


.

 Being open to new opportunities and experiences and thus having a richer life.
Positive

May provide some protection by conforming to the beliefs of a powerful group such as Christians or Communists.

 Belonging to an ideological group may confer a sense of protection and health benefits.




 Avoiding being to experimental and getting into rough situations.
Negative

Inability to understand clearly what’s going on in the world due to a very limited viewpoint such as those coming from religions or political ideologies. 
Constant conflict with the world due to having a worldview, be it Christian, Communist, Islamic, etc that does not fit with observations from real life.


Limiting one’s actions and opportunity to conform to self expectations.


The following continuum generally define a mind that is free and exploratory versus a mind that is fixed, conservative, narrow, and strictly defined.  We would generally want to go toward a more free open-minded mind, the column with borders on the chart.  The therapist dealing with a narrow mind that is fixed and conservative and in conflict would try to deconstruct that way of thinking without getting into metaphysics about which god exists or which political ideology is right or best.  What is important to know is that they are attempts to escape from fear, and attempt to flee from reality which is free for all to see but few will look at it honestly.  It is the journey of the therapist and client to get to that sense of honesty about the world that deconstructs conflicts in the mind.

DF Seldon



Friday, November 9, 2012

Epistemological Psychotherapy, self separation and connection



Let’s talk about another axis of self that can cause conflict in a person.  There is an axis of separateness vs. connection.  Some people feel connected to the world, others feel separate from the world and other people.  An intense view of separation can cause one to become very selfish and hence in conflict with everything.  We are in conflict with everyone we meet, the neighbors, our mates, and our family, constantly struggling for ourselves and complaining about our lives, essentially stuck behind a fence we have created to protect ourselves but instead keeping ourselves in constant conflict.  Every relationship is conflict, every day is conflict.

There is a sense in which some of us experience separateness so acutely that it cannot be changed by simply wishing to be connected.  It may produce pathologies that require pharmacological treatment such as depression and OCD.  In OCD, the sufferer feels his actions are so important that it will cause catastrophic changed in the world so there is a need to produce a sense of perfection; however, many animals are known to develop OCD-like behaviors and it is not a condition which the sufferer has produced himself or has sufficient control over.  Pharmacological treatments and psychotherapy can be helpful in destroying the physical conditions, myths, and assumptions on which OCD thrives.  In Epistemological therapy the goal is to push the sufferer more to the left or center of the continuum to experience more connection with others and the world.

Self

Connection ß-----------------------------------------------------------------------à Separation

Negative

Being unwary of dangers to self.





 May be socially unconscious and hence inept, unable to self monitor. 





 Being socially inept in social hierarchies and hence producing conflict by not understanding one’s position.


Being non-competitive and unsuccessful below the level of survival.


Positive

Not having to worry excessively about one’s own troubles but instead seeing the big picture of self and others.


Release from self worry, ability to perceive what’s happening in the world without selfish concerns.




Non-comparison, being able to see others, their victories and failures without comparison and the negative feelings that come with it.

Not competing and hence not at conflict with others.

 Not incorporating negative traits with self.  Allowing for forgiveness and open-mindedness.



Experience of connection, flow, and selflessness.
Positive

May provide self-protection in a dangerous environment.




May provide self-protection in a dangerous environment.






Ability to understand and perform in social hierarchies. 




 Being competitive for survival.
Negative

Constant worry about oneself and the effects of one’s actions.




Can contribute to extreme self-consciousness, shyness, and anxiety.  Related to anxiety, depression, OCD, and Paranoid Personality disorder.


Constant comparison to others producing feelings of unworthiness.




Constant competition and hence conflict with others.

Associating and blaming oneself with negative traits not under one’s control with self, like illness.


Experience of separation and conflict.

In general, the therapy will move one from a sense of separation and selfishness, to connection and understanding of the big picture, more toward the two middle columns.  This will alleviate negative feelings caused by having too strong a sense of self and separation from the world and from others.  We are part of a very large and powerful interconnected system of humans, animals, and all of the earth and universe.  Being comparing, competitive, and ambitious against others can create all kinds of havoc for us.  So lets discover each day, connection and love.

DF Seldon

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Epistemological Psychotherapy for Anxiety



We hold certain ideas and concepts that create our understanding of self and the world.  The way we view many of these things has a large effect on our functioning and emotions.  Those qualities that make up the usual person’s sense of self can be changed, in pathological states, to improve mood and understanding by a philosophical approach to psychotherapy. 

Self

One of the major players in our minds, and having influence on our moods and functioning is our understanding of self.  Our experience of self is made up of many things, dependent on our physical make-up and many other factors, but our conceptualization of self is created by us and our society.  Here are some major categories.  These can be seen on a spectrum, not as metaphysical truths or non-truths but as ‘language games’ or ‘conceptual games’ that we have learned to use and that have an effect on our thinking, functioning, and moods.  Wherever one falls on the spectrum, if it’s causing distress, one can move in the other direction with philosophical and physical understanding of the issues involved.

Self

Determinism ß----------------------------------------------------------à Freewill

Negative

Non-responsibility for things which ARE under our control causing harm.


Guiltless, harmful behavior




Unprincipled harmful laziness
Positive

Non-blame – Not blaming oneself for things which are NOT under your control.


Non-guilt





Acceptance, Effortlessness

Positive

Controlled decision making.





Taking responsibility for actions under your control.


Useful attempts to change the world for the better.
Negative

Distress over decisions the processes and effects of which are not under your control.

Taking blame and responsibility for things not under your control.


Taking on blame for things in the world that are not under your control or making intolerant and useless attempts to ‘fix’ things.

Take the example of the neurotic person.  The neurotic person is on the far right end of the spectrum, believes in freewill and blames him/herself for everything and/or makes constant ineffective attempts to change things, never feeling satisfied and never being able to accept things as they are.  That person can be made to understand that she does not control everything and should not expect to and be brought to some level of acceptance, non-guilt, and non-blame.  The more positive categories on the spectrum are therefore in the middle of the chart.  Moving toward the middle, knowing what is under your control and what is not may help improve understanding and hence mood for such a person.

An extreme view may be psychologically helpful for some, it depends on the person and circumstances and that is for the therapist and client to work out.

Lastly, one view or other may coincide better with ‘reality’ or rather fit more perfectly with what we observe personally and scientifically.  Scientifically, biologically, molecularly, and atomically, all matter performs in a deterministic way and everything made of matter (us) are under those constraints.  Subatomically, there is less understanding and some possible indeterminacy, which contrary to wishful thinking, does not support freewill but is just a bad a blow to freewill as determinism, in other words, if things are simply behaving randomly, you have even less control of yourself than you imagined.  If in fact, determinism is the best supported by observation on many levels, when one can truly understand what that means, it can be a transcendent realization.  In the end, we do not know and cannot know for absolute knowledge is not a function of our brains so we are to use these understandings functionally and one important way to use them is to understand things in a way that improves our functioning and mood and not in a way that causes harm to oneself and others.

In experience, the basic substance of freewill is the ‘sense’ of an intentional thought or physical movement.  That is all it is.  Studies have shown that this sense can be ‘tricked’ in pathological states such as in split-brained patients, or even ‘tics’, involuntary muscle movements which feel semi-voluntary to the sufferer who can stop the movement for seconds but feels compelled to allow it to continue.  So even the sense of intentional action can be understood as produced by physical processes in the brain, especially the prefrontal cortex and other ‘monitoring’ systems of the brain. 

So back to the practical question, which way do you need to move?  Are you too full of anxiety and blame?  You may think you are in control of things which are out of your control.  Are you constantly stressing over small decisions?  Every little decision you make does not produce predictable outcomes and certainly does not control the universe.  Today, I was stuck in traffic and I was awed by all the activity of all these people I don’t know who were in such a hurry to get here and there.  I was slightly afraid I could have a car accident with all the random activity going on.  But I came to realize, while I can drive to the best of my ability, I am not going to be able to control the driving of the thousands of vehicles on the road of which I am a part and just one.  Even if I were to have an accident, I could not blame myself unless I was intentionally, and controllably incapacitated by drink or intentional medication overdose.  This is not just an example, there are people, injured in car accidents, who years after are full of self-blame, as if the fate of that entire day or situation rested with them.  It does not.  Think about these things.  Resolve the tension between yourself and reality, you cannot constantly continue to fight and deny the universe, you will definitely drive yourself insane.  There needs to be acceptance and non-blame.

Thanks for reading.  Subsequently, we will go over other categories that compose or influence our sense of self and how we can use them to improve mood and functioning.  Another category is the connectedness of self with others and the environment.  Do we feel a part of the world or separate from it and what are the psychological effects of those perspectives?

DF Seldon MS
Thank you

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Why Isn't Everything Alright?


I want to talk about something which for me is one of the ultimate practical questions to ask in this life:

  Why hasn’t man done all he can to reduce and prevent suffering?  Just take a moment to think about that.  Why is it when there’s plenty of food, we allow some people to starve, even destroy food resources to keep prices up?  Why isn’t it that when a child is born into this world, we don’t give her the best chance at health and happiness?  Why isn’t it just so organized that as soon as your born there’s a plan and contingency plans laid out for you to support you growing up and going to work and to help you support others, in other words, why haven’t we all gotten together and figured out how to reduce suffering and increase happiness?

I’ll tell you three of the main reasons, then I’ll tell you how it relates to you and your happiness.  Three of the main reasons are 1.  Hate,  2.  Division.  3.  Incompetence.  It’s really the same thing, hate and division.  In scientific terms it’s called tribalism.  My tribe against your tribe.  And humans will do anything to divide into tribes even to the point of dividing according to sports teams and performing acts of violence in the name of your team.  If you get a chance, look up hooliganism http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Football_hooliganism

But let’s take it deeper than that.  Why has man not done all he can to ensure the health and happiness of all who enter this world?  Maybe your life has been such a series of struggles that you can hardly comprehend what’s the use.  Maybe you suffer from depression, anxiety, and a host of other mood disorders.  Why is it when you go for treatment you’re treated like a pariah, like you’re the only one they’ve seen with this issue?  It’s a problem all over the world.  And it’s everyone’s problem.  Why hasn’t the science of drug and therapy treatment advanced far further than it has.  The answer is profit motive put simply but we’ll get to that.  If the answer to why we haven’t wiped this out is hate, how is it this hate is allowed operate?

The root cause of this hate and tribalism is our animal instincts.  Many types of animals will divide into groups and attack each other.  There’s status and hierarchy, rich and poor among lower animals.  Gorilla groups have been known to carry out full scale war against other groups and to cannibalize the enemy even though they are mostly vegetarian.  So it’s a mentality passed down from animals but which mentalities exactly.

1.  Number one is the mentality that I have to belong to a group opposed to other groups for protection and acceptance, aka tribalism.  Why cannot human beings move beyond this?  We can see that the only thing we need protection from is other groups of humans who have banded together in opposition to us.  If we would all stop forming groups opposed to each other and based on some petty philosophy that is little different from one another, then we can stop attacking each other.  Why do we need countries, religious identity, and political philosophies to divide us just so we can protect ourselves from each other?  Why do we need this violence, think about that.

2.  The second mentality is another passed down from the animal, it’s basically called jealousy, if someone else has something, then I can’t have it.  For early man in times of scarcity, if someone else was eating the food you needed to survive, you may very well hate and attack that person or group because otherwise you’re dead.  But in todays world, is there really not enough food to go around?  Surely there is, especially if we work together.  So let’s do away with those mentalities, that we have to belong to a group for protection because what it causes is the opposite of protection, violence.  Look at street gangs.  Youth most often say they joined a gang for protection, but if they would stop joining gangs, they wouldn’t need protection.  And the idea that if someone else has something, then there’s none for me.  In the US people go so far as to be jealous of impoverished people who get food stamps to pay for food.  I guess they would rather have them starving and begging in the streets.  Just because impoverished people can afford a little food with government assistance doesn’t mean you now have less food.  There’s plenty of food here.  So let’s dispel that myth.

The same thing believe it or not happens with pain relief.  People are actually jealous to see other people getting effective pain relief and heaven forbid people actually get a boost in happiness from a drug or treatment.  When did it become evil to feel good?  We’re not talking about drug addiction here, it’s a myth that drug addiction and getting a good feeling from a drug are the same thing and I’ll explain later how that came about, but simply put, it’s profit motive.

3.  The third mentality I want to talk about is the idea that you and I have no responsibility for what’s going on in the world.  If you drive a car, don’t be surprised if we end up in the Middle East fighting for oil.  It’s  as simple as that.  We make up the world, the human society.  We are the world.  Without us, it’s just animals and plants, we’re not talking about that, we’re talking about human society.  Our consciousness and the things we care about and focus on, that’s what the world is.  It’s up to us to use our genius and our ingenuity to decrease suffering and promote happiness for everyone who comes into this world.  One of the hardest things to understand growing up is that not everything is organized and orderly for human flourishing, in fact, most things are not.  And it’s because we haven’t provided order in the world because we’re too busy trying to smite each other or waiting for some supernatural being to come and make everything right by wiping out our enemies.  That shows incompetence.  We are incompetent individually and as a group.

Individually, even though we know some things we can do to make the world better like reducing our gas and energy consumption, reducing our consumption of meat, not buying the products of suffering, we are unable to stop.  We simply don’t quite know how to, it’s become our habit.  That flows directly into making us incompetent as a group.  We can’t act competently as a group because the individual parts of that group can’t act competently.  We look to government to help us and that’s just as well because we are part of the government, but we have to realize the government is us, it’s not something outside of us so for real change, we can’t just think we can tell other people to do it.  We have to become involved ourselves in living what we know to be a moral life.

Here’s how that relates to you and your personal happiness.  First, when you divide yourself from others, you must spend all of your energy rejecting others and will find yourself quite drained and may even find yourself imprisoned in your home unable to venture out into the company of others.  What if you stopped dividing yourself from others, by class, by religion, by nationality and considered yourself part of the whole of human experience.  Take a bird’s eye view, look down on your little neighborhood or city, and look at the tiny dot that is you surrounded by all the other tiny dots that are everyone else.  That little single ant that is you is gonna have one heck of a time rejecting all those other ants.  If you suffer from severe anxiety or social anxiety, it may require meds and therapy to learn to embrace others, but be able to see into this process.

Secondly, you want to have purpose and meaning in life, aka you want to live a moral life.  How you do that is according to your circumstances in life.  But when you are able to identify areas where you can help to reduce suffering and promote happiness, you become part of the whole of humanity because you’re now helping and everyone can use some help sometime.  You are no longer separating.  And you are able to see how your suffering and happiness is intimately related to that of others.
 
So to sum up, Why have humans not produced the order to ensure the best chance of health and happiness for all, simple answer, hate, division, and incompetence.

What can you do?  Stop dividing yourself from others by race, religions, and politics.  Don’t give into animal instincts of jealousy and tribalism.

And most of all figure out where you can help reduce suffering and promote happiness, even if that means starting with yourself.  Find out what you can do individually and as part of the group. 

Thanks for reading, my name is Daryl Seldon, you can check me out at dysautobotdiary.blogspot.com or bpainfreetherapy.hubpages.com

Have a nice day and Get Better Sooner.

Monday, October 15, 2012

List of BPainFree Hubpages Articles




















How to Use Dextromethorphan for POTS and Chronic Pain, revised     









Primary Causes of POTS and Strategies to Reverse Them   









A Theory of Ehlers-Danlos as a Genetic Advantage in Ancestral Environments Contributing to Advanced Civilization   









POTS and Excitotoxicity   









In the Beginning of Psychology, There Were the Fainters   









Is It All In the Head?   









Ways to Strengthen Collagen In Ehlers-Danlos   









Step 1 Enter If You Can, Therapeutic Awareness     









Our POTS, EDS, Chronic Pain Memory, and Self   









Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation Therapy   









Ways to Live Longer, Better   









Therapeutic Thinking: How-to, Revised   









Pain and and It's Relation to Our Thinking Style   









A Poem for EDS: The Ruined Garden   









10 Reliefs of Living Therapy, revised   

Cycling


What would you do if you were instantly cured of your dysautonomia?  One of my answers is, I would ride a bike, everywhere.  I’d damn near stop driving altogether.  It’s always been one of my goals.

I remember learning to ride a bike when I was a kid, it required a lot of faith.  My big sister put me on the bike and pushed me and said pedal, so I did.  It was not lost on me that I would soon crash but it worked out in the end.  Learning to do anything is mostly like that.  You just do it and you’re horrible at it until finally, you stop sucking at it.

For quite a while I sucked at being ill, meaning I ate a terrible diet and drank lots of beer and as a result, spent most of the day lying in the bed in pain. I stayed in my room and closed the door, paid my half of the rent; I mean I was conscious of not putting my problems off on other people.  It just seemed to my family like I had become an agoraphobic, which is a respected position in my family since in any generation, a few on my mom’s side are stricken with an inability to venture out into the world.  It becomes a mysterious and spiritual position.  I’ve heard that also happens in Jewish families, the mentally ill are sometimes seen as having a special connection to god or to spiritual things.  It’s a sensitivity they have, we have, that does in fact, in many cases, lead to an expanded spiritual sense.

Maybe that lead me out of my torpor.  I always had the sense that I needed to be moving forward, even if I could barely venture out of bed, so I hit the computer and the phones.  Since I couldn’t work, I decided to help other people find work.  I helped land my brother and a friend good jobs through some connections I had made online and that kinda catapulted me out of the worst of my being disabled, seeing that even at my worst, I could still accomplish something.  One of the things I discovered that I absolutely had lost the ability to do was ride an upright bike.

My initial solution was to buy a recumbent trike off Craigslist and ride it.  It was an amazing solution.  You have far more leg power, strength, and endurance sitting down reclined on a bike than you do sitting up.  I could have ridden that thing across the city without breaking a sweat whereas on a normal bike, I’m having severe chest pain in just seconds.  The recumbent trike I bought was made for the beginner, so it only cost me $50 but the tires were tiny so I replaced then with normal sized bike tires and created a nice hybrid that rode smoothly, to my surprise.  It was also easy to put in my van and take out: all in all just a hell of a lot of fun.  Poor Betsy has been lost to time now.  I left her over an ex’s house and she fell victim to that woman’s need to purge any sore reminders of love lost.

This week I went looking for a replacement and recumbent trikes are not cheap, even used they will cost between $200 to $2,000.  I don’t have the money these days and it surprises me that I once did.  So, I’ve decided I’m going to attempt to ride an upright bike.  My health has gotten much better due to diet and having found a good doctor.  I have almost no chest pain now and little orthostatic intolerance.  It might be time for me to venture out from home, not be the family agoraphobic.  A regular bike need cost no more than $200 and there’s lots to choose from, it’s totally not like trying to buy a recumbent trike which is difficult and expensive.  There are many many great reasons to ride a bike, and only a few drawbacks but we’ll discuss those later.  Now it’s time for me to browse my options and find the bike that is right for me.  Happy Friday yall.
--DF Seldon

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Dream Woman


Dream Woman
by DF Seldon

Your skin against my skin,
Is the wind of a golden plain--
In a dream I'll have tonite,
Caressing hands of grain.

The night falls, the moon rises,
Your eyes are the fireflies,
Tracing hypnotic circles--
In these scary dreams of mine.

Suddenly floating uncontrolled--
In deepest empty space.
Your smile is a supernova
That heals or kills with deadly rays.

I know my heart can break,
As through a frozen world I make--
My way through an icy dreamland,
Not wanting to ever wake.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Blog your way to happiness and improve your coping

I’m currently as I am always working on ways to be happier and help others become more fulfilled people.  I’m currently working with two books, Sonja Lyubomirsky’s The How of Happiness and The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris.  The suggestions based on practice and research I will summarize here, with an emphasis on my own situation but hopefully also useful for others.  I therefore will not include everything that may be helpful, but rather the things that I find most helpful.

Step 1:  Incorporate happiness interventions into your life.  

 These interventions are proven to raise mood and happiness scores.  I have created a chart of the interventions I find helpful and how to implement them into one’s personal blog writing.  One reason I do it this way is because I have two personal blogs, one called DysautoBot Diary dysautobotdiary.blogspot.com and the other in the works.  It will be a work of fiction based on a conception of my best possible self, which is one of the interventions listed in my chart.  Take a look at the chart and see if it may be useful for you to make your own chart.  The idea is simple:  to take happiness interventions and use them in your blog.  The hope is that people who are sick, or bed bound, and can’t do a lot in the world can become happier through writing.  So I combine elements of writing therapy, happiness research, and narrative therapy.  But it’s all for fun so do enjoy.

If you write in your blog everyday and need to find a subject matter, take one of the interventions and do your writing based on it.  If you don’t understand the chart or need more information, page numbers to the explanations in the two books mentioned are provided.

I am also going to use ACT therapy, Acceptance and Commitment therapy as one of the interventions.  I am not an advocate of ACT therapy, I don’t know how appropriate it is, but I’m giving it a try because it combines a lot of things which I believe to be helpful.

Here’s the chart.  Try your own chart.  Copy paste mine then delete my interventions and put your own, or use mine.  You might also want to get the books if you would like to take a similar journey as I.

How to Incorporate Happiness Interventions into your Personal Blog
Based on Sonja Lyubomirsky’s The How of Happiness and The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris


Happiness Activities
Intervention
Refer to
1.  Expressing Gratitude
Gratitude Journal within personal blog
p.96 HH
2.  Cultivating Optimism
Best possible self diary in blog
p.108 HH
3.  Practice acts of kindness
Motivational writing or to provide comfort
p. 132 HH
4.  Nurture relationships
Write letters, poems, to loved ones
p. 147 HH
5.  Develop coping
ACT therapy
  THT
6.  Increasing flow
Add motivational speaking videos to blog
p. 186
7.  Savor life’s joys
Add pictures of pleasing events
p.200 HH
8.  Committing to goals
Post goals and progress
p. 215 HH
9.  Meditation/Spirituality
Research, post on techniques
p. 240 HH
10.  Exercise
Record goals and progress
p. 244 HH












Step 2.  Know your values and pursue your goals.
From The Happiness Trap  p. 183  I’ve filled out my own personal chart but left this one blank so you can put your own goals into it.  Copy paste it into word and fill it out for yourself.
Goal Type
Long term
Intermediate
Short term
To Do
1.  Family




2.  Romance




3.  Friendships




4.  Employment




5.  Education




6.  Leisure




7.  Spirituality




8.  Community




9.  Environment




10.  Health




11.  Material








Step Three:  Have a coping strategy

How To do ACT Therapy

A.  Know the happiness MYTHS – NOT TRUE ASSUMPTIONS
  1.  Happiness is the natural state of human beings (THT p.9) – Vigilance and variable mood associated with survival is the natural state.
  2. If you’re not happy, you’re defective (THT p. 10) – Natural thinking processes will lead to psychological suffering.
  3. To create a better life,  we must get rid of negative feelings (THT p.10) – It is natural to have negative feelings.
  4. You should be able to control what you feel and think (THT p. 11) – In reality, you have much less control over your thinking than you would think, much of it is automatic.

B.  Six Core Principles

  1.  Defusion.  Realize thoughts are just often automatic depressive stories from a mind built to survive a dangerous environment.  Defuse from them by saying “I am having the thought that, or I am having the feeling that I will feel sad if the dog remains ill (for example).  Realize the brain will do what it does but it doesn’t have to affect you.  Put the thoughts in the voice of a cartoon character so that you can hear that they are just thoughts, not reality.
Try thanking your mind as it comes up with threatening stories, simply say, Thank you.
Imagine troublesome images have a musical soundtrack in the background to see that they are only images.
  1. Acceptance.  Make room for and breathe into the bodily sensations that represent pain and see that they are just physical sensations.  Accept and embrace reality.
  2. Connection.  Practice mindfulness in daily life.
  3. The Observing Self.  Learn to observe life without judging.  Practice mindfulness meditation
  4. Values.  Know your values and work toward them regardless of your feelings.
  5. Committed Action.  Take actions toward your values to create a rich and meaningful life.

In general in this therapy, you will practice mindfulness in everyday life, learn that negative thoughts and feelings are not reality by defusing them but allowing them to be, not fighting against them.  You will learn to accept all of life including the negative thoughts and feelings.  Breathe or meditate into negative bodily sensations to expose them as sensations that cannot harm you.  Finally, identify your values and work towards them to create a rich and meaningful life rather than being controlled by your feelings, let them be yet take effective action.

I find this therapy to be acceptable.  You can do it yourself.  I recommend you get the book to help.  This therapy, I will use to help with coping.  It is not a gospel, and it is not necessarily the best therapy ever made, but it is sufficient and a good fit for me personally.  It was recommended by someone in a Facebook group associated with EDS or POTS, conditions that I have.

This focus on coping is not a replacement for those with pain and depression for medication.  I am well medicated and at this time, successfully treated for both pain and depression.  I believe the correct medication is crucial for those with pain and depressive conditions.  This has been a very technical post I know.  It is some organizing that I needed to do for myself, but I hope others will also find it useful.

Have fun, be safe, and get better sooner!
DF Seldon, Dysautobot
BpainFree